Who gets custody?

After an over year long absence from blogging, I've decided to resume my blogging site again. Missed me haven't you? :-)

Tonight I'm feeling a little more brave about the topic (and a little courage called red wine doesn't hurt) I'm going to write about. After all, I've been threatening to write about this, but just haven't done so until now.

When I ask who gets custody, you may be thinking I'm referring to children in a divorce case. While I am referencing a divorce, the custody agreement I'm questioning doesn't pertain to the children, but to the adults themselves, as in who gets custody of the formerly married spouses? Do you keep sole custody of the husband or the wife? Is it possible to get joint custody?

Let's look at this logically for a moment. For joint custody, you'd have to have both parties agree to an equitable amount of time spent with you. Now that the friends are no longer married, your time commitment would double just to be able to spend equal amounts of time with the former spouses. If you rarely saw them when they were married, how do you propose to spend even more time with them as individuals. And what about vacations, holidays and birthdays? Do you alternate times, every other year?

Now the flip side, sole custody. Just the word "sole" signifies someone is going to be left out. And how does this scenario play out? Do you remain friends with the person you knew the longest? If you loved both the husband and the wife, do you completely sever ties with one of them? Either way, sole or joint custody, it's a no win situation when you dearly love both parties. My head (and my heart) aches just thinking about it. I think I'll just have another glass of red wine.